Your co-parent or partner isn’t the only one expecting a baby, you are in this together and will experience a lot over the next 40 weeks, that will bring with it intense thoughts and emotions. Your role will be crucial and we are here to help you.

Dad reading to his baby

Emotionally, you could be experiencing joy, excitement, eagerness or anxiety, fear and worry – it is OK to feel these, and for them to change often. You may get swept up in the excitement of others as your news is shared, or you could feel like you have taken a back seat as attention focuses on the baby’s mother. 

Before your baby is born you should find time to talk, read and sing to your baby – babies can hear and will recognise your voice. Be part of the pregnancy; attend appointments so that you can track your baby’s development, hear the heartbeat and feel connected.

Support healthy habits. This is a partnership so eat healthy, exercise and avoid smoking and alcohol together.

Expectant parent classes are widely available, and will help you prepare for feeding, changing, keeping safe and well as well as useful tips for the labour and delivery.

Finally, enjoy the journey together. Make the most of the next nine months before you become a family.  Spend time talking, listening and enjoying each other’s company. 

Further resources - Home to the largest connected community of active, involved Dads through its interactive forum, providing great peer to peer support and advice for what can be one of the most challenging and rewarding life experiences. 

Daddilife - An online community developed especially to support dads and dads to be.

'Tips from dads to dads' - a video from the National Childcare Trust (NCT)

Five to Thrive - Talk

Talking to your co-parent or partner about your new arrival will create a close bond. Talking to your unborn baby will help to familiarise them with your voice.

You may be anxious or excited about becoming a dad, or a bit of both! Either way, talking about this will help you and your family prepare for baby’s arrival.


  • If you have a co-parent/partner, talk to them about any worries you may have about labour and discuss in what ways they would like you to support them during that time
  • Talk to your co-parent/partner about your excitement and any ideas you have for baby’s arrival
  • If you can, talk to your baby, your baby will begin to recognise your voice
  • Talk to your family and friends about being a new parent
  • Talk to your family and friends about both yours and their new role in baby’s life