As your child moves into adolescence, there is no doubt that for most families, it can present a challenge for both parents and young people. For some, it is often an anxious time with scary body changes, bullying by peers and a new search for independence.
This can lead to:
- Passive-aggressive behaviour - "I’ll do it in a minute"
- Self-consciousness - "What are you staring at?"
- Self-doubt - "I’m not good at anything.", and/or
- Over-confidence - "Well, I thought I could do that."
- Moodiness - "Leave me alone."
Dealing with teenagers is by no means an easy task given the frequent changes in behaviour. As they start making their own decisions, it requires a change of relationship between themselves and you as their parent.
As a parent you will explore the fine balance between offering support whilst letting your teenager (safely) learn from the results of their actions.
During this stage, peer pressure is at its maximum as teenagers sometimes identify with and value more the opinion of their friends rather than the opinion of their parents.
If you create a supportive, positive and fun family environment with open communications and encouragement to participate in community activities, your teenagers will work though these years into adulthood.
Dr John Coleman - Conversation, Not Confrontation